Relationships in Adolescence: Are They Worth It?

Note. Due to the appalling state of research into non-heterosexual adolescent relationships, I have focused on data from studies based on heterosexual relationships.

Romantic relationships happen early. Data shows that 25% of 12 year old have reported being a part of one  and as adolescence continues, the number jumps to around 50% at age 15 and 75% by 18. A considerable amount of people are getting into relationships early on which begs the questions: what characteristics do romantic relationships at this stage have and should they be encouraged or discouraged?

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Parental Regret: the Undisclosed Downside of Having Children

You’ve probably been given an overly romanticised version of parenthood and that leaves a lot of people unprepared. Being a parent isn’t always as great as it’s made out to be. With children come huge financial and emotional responsibilities which, if you’re not ready for, can really put you in a bad place relative to those who stay childless. Even if you feel like you’re ready for it, you might find out that you overestimated your readiness. This will be exacerbated if you’re a single parent and even more so if you’re away from family or friends who could act as extended caregivers. If you’re a woman then you also have the risks associated with pregnancy and childbirth. Those two things can already be incredibly difficult and once your child is with you, as a woman you will likely deal with the majority of child-related tasks.

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What’s a Good Enough Reason to Breakup with Someone? Hope for Those Feeling Trapped

I recently wrote about the the main reasons for breakups, which you can read here, and I said one of the uses for that information was to initiate a breakup. I’m going to go a little further on that. If you’ve been conditioned by your partner to believe that by breaking up with them you’re “giving up” or that “no reason will be good enough”, then I hope that I can help you toss those abusive lies to the side and do what you need to do be happy.

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The Main Reasons for Breakups

There can be an infinite variety of reasons as to why someone wants to end a romantic relationship with someone else. This particular study shows 292 of them. Despite there being so many reasons, they can be grouped into distinct categories (which makes writing about them so much easier). Before I go on, the study is an old one (from 1986) yet the main categories will ring true for some of you 31 years later.

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Porn Addiction: Pathologising Healthy Sexual Behaviours to Exert Control Over Human Sexuality

The following is based on information taken from scientific journals focusing mainly on North America with some from Western Europe.

Porn addiction is not recognised in diagnostic manuals nor is it supported by strong empirical data. In fact, reviews of the available science supporting porn addiction show poor experimental designs which calls the findings into question. Scientists have argued that porn addiction is not a medical issue but a moral one and that’s what I’m going to outline here.

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The Orgasm Gap

A gap exists between the number of orgasms men and women have, especially if they’re heterosexual. Knowledge of this gap has existed, at least scientifically, since 1953 and the gap is still apparent in research from 2010 through to this year. To be specific, the gap is about the frequency of orgasms;  heterosexual men say they usually/always orgasm up to 95% of the time while heterosexual women do up to 65% of the time. That’s a significant gap. In this post, I’m going to address some more information regarding the gap and how to close it.

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How 20 Women View Their Vulvas

I’m going to base this post on a study conducted in 2014. It asked a group of 20 female participants of different races, ages and sexual orientations about their relationship to their genitals. Seven main themes emerged from the discussion which I will present to you. Quick note: although the entire female genitalia is commonly referred to as the ‘vagina’, this is anatomically incorrect. The visible parts of the female genitalia are collectively called the vulva and the vagina is an internal component.

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What Science Says Makes a Happy Relationship

With relationships being such a complex thing, it’s not surprising that there are so many factors which make a happy relationship. By no means have I covered absolutely everything here. Nonetheless, there’s a lot of practical information which you can easily apply! A lot of what I’m going to talk about touches on conflict resolution, sex, children and more. Each of these will have their own posts but this is a good starting point for them all. I hope the information I present is useful to you.

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